Sister, Sister

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    Posted on Friday, Nov 10, 2017
    People often told me that my siblings would turn out to be my first real friends that I would ever make, no matter what the age difference may be.   That was not the case though; my older sister, Andrea (Sorry her name is not Tia, or else that would have been even more awesome) and I were always close, but never on a friendship, ‘best friends’ level.  I think that the 9 years age difference had something to do with it.  However, I can honestly say today that my sister is like a mother figure to me, especially for the last 2 years.
             
    Moving to College Station was not an easy transition for me: I always grew up with my extended family around me and I always had help in every aspect of my life.  I never thought that liberation would feel like loneliness when I turned 18 and moved to Texas.  The one good thing that came out of it, at the time, was that my big sister was living here and actually finishing up in getting her Ph.D. at A&M in Biomedical Engineering (smart one).  After living on campus for one semester -because I wanted to get a feel of the actual college lifestyle – I (meaning my parents) decided that I should move in with my sister to make ends meet.  She was already living with roommates, but decided to move out, move closer to school and near a bus route just for me.  She took me into consideration when finding a new place and has always put me as one of the top priorities when making decisions that could affect either one or the both of us.
             
    That is not all though, for my sister is the most selfless human being I have ever met.  So many sacrifices she has done and made, but the ultimate sacrifice would be her decision to not leave College Station right after getting her Ph.D. to find a job, but taking a job in one of the research labs here on campus and staying here until I have graduated.  She wanted me to have a solid foundation upon reaching my last year at A&M and decided that until then, she would stay put until I walk across that stage with that diploma in my hand and a graduation cap on with the tassel moved from right to left (or left to right – I could never remember which way).
             
    One of the most important things that my sister has taught me in the last 2 years is being independent.  I was raised with less restrictions than she was, and I realized that I never experienced the childhood that she did.  I am able to say proudly that I can do the laundry by myself, cook for more than one person, clean my bathroom, and do other things on my own because she pushed me into doing these things upon living with her in just one year.  She even got me paying the internet bill as well as half of the grocery bills, now that I am working and no longer living off of my monthly allowance I would get from our father.
             
    Because of her patience in dealing with me and her faith in believing in me, I can truly say that my sister is an amazing woman whom I love so much.  She may not know it, but I hope that this is a way for me to tell her that without her, I would have been lost, scared and afraid of what the real world has in store for me. For that, I just want to say thank you, because now, I have another person in my life who I aspire to be and if I achieve just an ounce of whatever qualities she has, I would be a changed person for the better.
     
    By: Tamera Locke, College of Agriculture and Life Sciences
    Photo Attribution: Tamera Locke